Ever sat down in front your comp, thinking why your life is just that way ?Ever felt so empty inside and just avoiding everyone and drowning yourself in games?What is love?How do you maintain a relationship?Why is she always unhappy with you?Who can you trust?
Styles of Love
Eros – a passionate physical and emotional love based on aesthetic enjoyment; stereotype of romantic love
Ludus – a love that is played as a game or sport; conquest
Storge – an affectionate love that slowly develops from friendship, based on similarity
Pragma – love that is driven by the head, not the heart; undemonstrative
Mania – highly volatile love; obsession; fueled by low self
Agape – selfless altruistic love; spiritual; motherly love
Eros
-Akin to limerence, eros is literally the love of beauty. It is a highly sensual style of love. Erotic lovers choose their lovers by intuition or "chemistry." They are more likely to say they fell in love at first sight than those of other love styles.
Erotic lovers view marriage as an extended honeymoon, and sex as the ultimate aesthetic experience. They tend to address their lovers with pet names, such as "sweetheart" or "honey." An erotic lover can be perceived as a hopeless romantic. Those of other love styles may see erotic lovers as unrealistic, or trapped in a fantasy.
The advantage of erotic love is the sentimentality of it. It is very relaxing to the person doing it. The disadvantage is the inevitableness of the decay in attraction, and the danger of living in a fantasy world. In its extreme, eros can resemble naivete.
Ludus
-Ludic lovers are players. More interested in quantity than quality of relationships, ludic lovers want to have as much fun as possible. Ludic lovers choose their partners by playing the field, and quickly recover from break-ups.
Ludic lovers generally view marriage as a trap, and are the most likely of the love styles to commit infidelity. They might view children as a sign of fertility, or, if male, a confirmation of their masculinity. They regard Sex as a conquest or a sport, and they engage in relationships because they see them as a challenge.
The advantage of ludic love is excellent sexual technique. The disadvantage is the likelihood of infidelity. In its extreme form, ludic love becomes promiscuity
Storge
-Storgic lovers are friends first. Storgic love develops gradually out of friendship, and the friendship can endure beyond the breakup of the relationship. Storgic lovers choose their mates based on homogamy, and sometimes cannot pinpoint the moment that friendship turned to love. Storgic lovers want their significant others to also be their best friends.
Storgic lovers place much importance on commitment, and find their motivation to avoid committing infidelity is to preserve the trust between the partners. Children and marriage are seen as legitimate forms of their bond. Sex is of lesser importance than in some of the other love styles.
The advantage of storgic love is the level of intimacy between the partners. The disadvantage is boredom and lack of passion
Pragma
-Pragmatic lovers are practical. Pragmatic lovers think rationally and realistically about their expectations in a partner, and select them via comparison shopping or shopping-list love. Pragmatic lovers want to find value in their partners, and ultimately want to work with their partner to reach a common goal.
Pragmatic lovers will avoid infidelity to avoid adverse consequences, and carefully weigh the costs and rewards of a relationship. Pragmatic lovers view sex as a reward or a means of procreation, and view marriage and children as potential liabilities and assets.
The advantage of pragmatic love is practicality and realism. The disadvantage is undemonstrativeness and lack of emotion. In its extreme form, pragma can become prostitution.
Mania
-Manic lovers often have low self-esteem, and place much importance on their relationship. Manic lovers speak of their partners in possessives and superlatives, and feel they "need" their partners. Love is a means of rescue, or a reinforcement of value. Manic lovers often discover their partners by haphazard means.
Manic lovers will avoid committing infidelity if they fear discovery. They view marriage as ownership, and children as either competition or a substitute for their lover. Sex is a reassurance of love. Manic lovers are often anxious or insecure, and can be extremely jealous. Manic lovers respond well to therapy, and often grow out of this style.
The advantage of manic love is intensity. The disadvantage is jealousy, obsessiveness, and insatiability. In its extreme, mania becomes addiction or codependency.
Agape
-Agapic love is self-sacrificing, all-encompassing love. Agapic lovers are often spiritual or religious people. Agapic lovers view their partners as blessings, and wish to take care of them.
Agapic lovers will remain faithful to their partners to avoid causing them pain, and will often wait patiently for their partners after a break-up. Marriage and children are sacred trusts, and sex is a gift between two people. Agapic love believes itself to be unconditional, though lovers taking an agapic stance to relationships risk suffering from inattention to their own needs.
The advantage of agapic love is its generosity. A disadvantage is that it can induce feelings of guilt or incompetence in a partner. In its deviant form, agape becomes martyrdom.
I was bored...so basically i will talk about my life maybe you guys will feel you will find a resemblance i dont know.
When i was younger, well im 22 now so im talking about age 17 or something like that, I never treasured girls or relationships, to me there was soo many of them, like it was abundant. Even if you met the nicest, prettiest hottest girl in town, you would never have been happy, to me i was always thinking of just having fun..chilling out with friends, clubbing, drinking, dancing that kinda shet. Ever heard of the word retribution? it happens. As i grew older, i finally snapped outta my dream and found out that, you dont always get a girl that is wonderful to you, who would always be there for you no matter what, a girl that will trust you whole heartedly and back u up whenever your in need. Sure its fun having lotsa friends, and maybe lotsa girls that are crazy over you, but oftenly the good ones you will look away and the bad ones seem to be all around you, so always remember if you were to go into a relationship dont just rush into one not knowing what type of person she/he really is. Guys will always do anything to get a girl, like wise girls would always play hard to get this is a fact of life.....and if your the type of guy or girl, that hates commiting into a relationship, the best thing to do would be just stay single,dont waste the guys time or the girls time. Lucky for me i have met the girl im willing to spend the rest of my life with...so gd luck!Do remember that love is not just about being happy with a girl or guy, its all the emotions that add up, when you start thinking of that person day and night, jealousy, sadness,happiness and you feel affected by anything the person does, is what really love is a mix of emotions.And when you find the right one, never give up!Lotsa love guildies!!This will be what i call the new beginning.
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